YOUR TRUE VOICE AND YOUR GIFTS HAVE LIVED IN THE SHADOW FOR FAR TOO LONG.
THIS IS YOUR EMERGENCE.
One of the areas where most devoted seekers abandon themselves is in their relationship with their light, their gifts, their mission.
Especially people in position of service. The guides, space holders, healers, therapists, and coaches etc.
The ones whose work is sacred to them.
You over-give and over pour into everyone who comes to you.
You call it devotion.
That is if you even allow yourself to express your mission to begin with.
You downplay your gifts, thinking it's humble, and that it's noble to undercharge.
You confuse integrity with hiding.
But somewhere underneath the over-giving, and the hiding, a resentment usually starts forming.
Toward the work you love. Toward people who seem to be doing better at what you want to do... especially when they seem to have less integrity. Sometimes toward the people you swore you'd serve.
You might never say that out loud. So let me say it for you. That resentment is often a sign that your mission is hijacked by a form of self-abandonment. And this is where we undo that.
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WHAT PREVIOUS PARTICIPANTS HAVE SAID ABOUT THE WORKSHOP
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I am really glad I did this workshop. I did it on impulse as a way of trusting my intuition. This is just what I needed to hear/experience.
Jane Ann Gorsky
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This experience felt cleansing and freeing.
Libby Briscoe
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I feel empowered to honor truth in each moment
Carey Bennett
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It feels like I purged some things. I feel new hope, like it's safe to take small steps forward even if they're scary.
David Butler
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I feel like a lot has unlocked and that I am looking forward to express, experience and accept.
Stefan Gafita
I’m a father of three, a trauma-informed transformational guide, a shadow integration specialist, and the author of Scars of Gold.
I didn't come to this work because I always honored myself. I came to it because I learned what it costs when you don’t and when you live a life where your soul feels like the outcast. I wouldn't wish that onto anyone.
The work I teach is not theory. It is the path that rebuilt me. The path that taught me how to stay when my nervous system wanted to flee, and how to express my light and gifts even when they might shake the status quo.
This workshop is born from that fire and from the profound knowing that self-abandonment is not weakness, but a survival strategy that has simply outlived its purpose. It is designed to help you outgrow it.
If you’re here, I will assume it's because deep down you know that the season of abandoning yourself (and especially your light) is over...
And a new era of self-devotion, truth, and sovereignty is beginning.
If that’s you, then welcome!
IT'S TIME TO TAKE YOUR VOICE, YOUR LIGHT AND YOUR GIFTS OUT OF THE SHADOW
There is a particular kind of self-abandonment that cuts the deepest.
Not the moments when we neglect our needs or avoid difficult feelings…
but the moments when we turn away from our own light and we rationalize it as a form of integrity.
You say you want to make a massive impact with your work and mission but your actions are demonstrating a completely different story.
You say you want to create more prosperity with your work but aren't willing to promote your craft for fear of being seen as pushy or even salesy.
These are different ways you uphold an image that doesn't honor your craft.
This is what we will disrupt with this workshop.
WHAT WE WILL COVER IN THE WORKSHOP
- The Revelation: Name every place you abandon yourself, and what each one is truly costing you... especially the shadow forms of self abandonment (the unseen ones that masquerade as integrity)
- The Root: Find and resolve the core fear(s) fueling self-betrayal, and uproot the pattern instead of managing it.
- The Reclamation: Take back the parts you exiled: the Sovereign who sets the terms, the Warrior who sells as devotion, the Heart-Centered Villain who can be disliked for the truth, and the Lover finally devoted to your own life too.
- The Revival: Build the capacity to handle being fully seen, without collapsing back into hiding... the capacity to stand for what is true for you in your life and your work.
- The Recalibration: Ground your new expression, integrate the new identity that your life and mission need now.
- A signature shadow-integration journey and somatic tools to release self-abandonment in the body, not just the mind.
- Live Q&A.
DISSOLVE SELF ABANDONMENT IN YOUR SOUL-LED WORK
If you are a conscious guide, in position of service or a creative, this is how this workshop will support you.
- Building the emotional stamina to hold your worth, your prices, and your no — without folding the moment someone pushes back.
- Dissolving the reflexes that make you abandon yourself: overgiving, shrinking, disappearing right when it's time to be seen.
- Uprooting the shadow vows that keep it running — "If I put myself first, I'm selfish," "If I sell, I'm a fraud."
IT'S TIME TO BUILD A LIFE WHERE YOUR SOUL NO LONGER FEELS LIKE THE OUTCAST
This is for you if...
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You’ve done deep inner work… and yet you still feel like you’re circling the edges of your full expression.
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You’re tired of hiding your brightness to stay safe, liked, or palatable.
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You’ve outgrown the version of leadership that requires you to shrink, perform, or prove.
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You long to live and lead from wholeness, and not from fragments or personas.
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You know there’s more gold inside you, and you’re ready to stop protecting it and start embodying it.
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You want to feel at home in your truth, unapologetic in your voice, no matter how challenging.
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You’re ready to create, speak, serve, and lead from the deepest part of you, not just the most curated part.
THE ALCHEMY OF SELF ABANDONMENT REPLAY - INSTANT ACCESS!
WORKSHOP w/ XAVIER DAGBA
One of the best investments I've made by far
Working with Xavier has completely shifted the way I relate to myself, my loved ones, and my work. Xavier is a master coach who very often was able to read between the lines of my best attempts at self expression and to find a nugget of wisdom inside of it, giving me the tools and encouragement to integrate aspects of myself I didn't even know where there. One of the best investments I've ever made, by far.
Peter Fam
Human Rights Lawyer
Xavier's intuitive attunement is unique.
I left my work with Xavier feeling balanced, confident in my ability to process all the hard issues we can face in life. I feel more free than I have ever felt before. The biggest achievement was working through years of unvoiced grief. Xavier is exceptional at what he does! He is so intuitive and I always felt like he knew exactly in which direction to take our sessions. His ability to support and guide you through your journey is second to none.
Gemma Russell
Hypnotherapist
Life has opened up in front of me.
Working with Xavier changed my life. My psychic gifts came online, I developed a deeper relationship with myself and my body. I am more at peace than I have ever been. In this container, I felt safe enough to dive into the places that terrified me and I came out of this experience a completely different person. I am bold and embodied, my energy is different. I am excited because life has opened up in front of me.
EZINNE OSUAGWU
Nothing short of life changing.
Working with Xavier has been nothing short of life-changing. I've gained a profound sense of self-confidence and self-love, and I've come to trust my gifts, especially my spiritual and healing gifts. Through our work, I've reached deeper levels of acceptance and developed the capacity to alchemize challenges with greater speed and grace. I've learned to trust masculine energy after experiencing lifelong wounding from men, I experience less anxiety, and embrace more softness and sensuality in my life because I feel safer in my body. My discernment has sharpened, and I no longer waste energy on areas that don't serve me. During a period of significant transitions in my life, his consistent presence was a balm to my soul.
