“Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.” – Bernice Johnson Reagon
Tough times are a natural part of being a human being. However, how long will you the tough times last, totally depends on how fast you are willing to let go of resisting the unwanted circumstances. At the end, what makes a situation difficult is not the details in entails, but rather the judgements that we entertain about it.
I will share with you in the following lines two crucial assumptions that you would benefit letting go of, for your tough times to pass faster.
1. This shouldn't have happened to begin with.
This is a really hard one to take in, especially if the hard time that we are talking about here feels like trauma and feels like abuse. In those situation everyone would immediately go towards thoughts like “this situation is totally unfair”, “This should’ve never happened to me” or “I’ve done nothing to deserve this”. This is totally understandable and if you are there, you have absolutely nothing to blame yourself about.
However, if you believe in the law of attraction, then at least intellectually, it is possible to understand that nothing can assert itself into your reality. If this is the case, then on some level, and most likely subconsciously, you vibrated in a way that allowed that event in your reality. Therefore you can start owning the trauma or the hard time. As soon as it becomes possible for you to own the hard time, it also becomes possible for you to let it go because you go from victim to being empowered.
Again, this is the perspective that many people have a hard time accepting. But here is a question that can help you make peace with your hard times and welcome the growth behind them. What if at a soul level, you chose to go through the trauma that you went through, so that through your healing, you can connect to a deeper level of love for yourself and compassion that we all need today? Ponder this.
2. There must be something wrong about me.
Usually when we think that because we keep seeing hardship around us, there must be something wrong about us, it is a great way to keep us in the hardship. At some point that statement can be justified because again, if you believe in the law of attraction, the hardship you experience has been manifested because of a belief that you hold. That belief is what can be considered by some as a “wrong” thing.
From another perspective, if you keep thinking that there is something wrong about you, the universe will keep bringing to your attention all the different things that you might think are wrong about you. This keeps you in a negative vicious cycle and keeps you from aligning with higher emotions and this is how you stay stuck in negativity.
3. There must be a lesson for me to learn about this.
A common belief in the self help industry is that to every hardship is associated a lesson that needs to be learned. It totally makes sense where this is coming from. But here is a question for you. What if obsessing about finding the lesson associated is the exact reason why you keep yourself in that situation. Think about it. It is as if while you walking, you step on dog poop and instead of cleaning your shoes (meaning letting go and focusing on something else here), you choose instead to stop and ponder why you walked on the dog poop to begin with. While you stop and ponder that question, you remain dirty.
The whole point is: looking for the lesson is a very honorable quest however, sometimes you don’t really need to figure out everything about a situation to be able to let it go. It only takes to consciously redirect your focus towards what you’d rather experience.
I know the 3 points below can sound controversial for many of you guys. I’d confess that at different stages of my journey, many of them didn’t feel aligned with me. However, the invitation here is to ponder them, to give them a chance and to see the outcome you get for yourself. Remember, what makes a situation harder is not necessary the conditions that it entails, but most time, it is the judgements that we attach to that situation.
Sending you so much love and light.
- Xavier
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