uprooting THE RELATIONAL SHADOWS that hijack your mission: the RETREAT
A full-day online relational alchemy retreat to clear the mother and father shadows that hijack your mission and expansion.
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Your mission and purpose are Shaped by Invisible Relational Shadows...
You’ve done the work, you’ve taken the courses, you're doing your best to serve from the heart...
You know the strategy, but something still feels blocked.
And the deeper truth is for most people:
It’s not a strategy problem.
It’s a relational blueprint problem.
You may recognize yourself in this:
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You know you’re meant for bigger work, but visibility makes you shrink.
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You overgive, undercharge, or struggle to hold boundaries with people you serve.
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You collapse when consistency is needed and sabotage momentum.
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You carry emotional responsibility for everyone you serve.
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You feel torn between devotion to your mission and fear of being seen.
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You avoid structure or leadership tasks that activate old wounds.
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You get overwhelmed or frozen before taking action you know you need to take.
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Your mission feels bigger than your nervous system can hold.
These patterns don’t come from your craft... your work mirrors them.
They are the reflections in your work of mother wound/shadow, your father wound/shadow, and the attachment patterns you’ve internalized since childhood.
And until these relational shadows are properly addressed, your mission will always feel heavier than it should.
This is the retreat I need -->Your Mission Is Being Hijacked by Your Relational Blueprint...
The way you lead, express, create, price, serve, and expand is shaped by the relational imprints living inside your nervous system.
When your inner mother is distorted,
you overgive, self-abandon, struggle with receiving and chase belonging...
When your inner father is distorted,
you fear authority, taking decisive action, visibility, and sovereign power.
When your attachment system is activated,
your mission becomes a place of anxiety, avoidance, or perfectionism.
When the inner child is running your business,
leadership becomes emotionally fragile, inconsistent, or overwhelming.
Until the relational architecture shifts,
your leadership cannot expand.
This retreat is where we change that.
This retreat is not simply a deep dive into the mother or father wound.
While we will explore these relational imprints, the purpose is not to rehash your history... it is to rebuild the internal architecture of inner authority that allows you to lead, love, and serve from the heart rather than from inherited pain.
We are examining how these core relational imprints still live inside your psyche and shape your leadership, your voice, your boundaries, and your capacity to hold your mission.
I am ready to dive in! -->A One-Day Descent Into the Relational Shadows Blocking Your Leadership.
This is not another workshop about healing. This is not strategy disguised as spirituality.
This is relational alchemy.
A journey into the mother shadow, father shadow, attachment shadows, and leadership patterns that keep your mission in the dark.
Throughout this full-day immersion, you will:
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Uncover how your relational wounds shape your business behaviors
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Map the emotional inheritance you bring into your leadership
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Identify the internalized mother/father dynamics running your mission
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Heal the relational patterns that distort your voice, visibility, and boundaries
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Rebuild the inner architecture of your leadership
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Activate the sovereign identity that your 2026 mission requires
This retreat is a portal and a shift in the internal leadership that directs your external work.
This is for you if…
This retreat is for you if:
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You are a soul-led entrepreneur, healer, coach, or creative
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You feel called to lead but something keeps pulling you back
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You’ve outgrown the emotional patterns running your business
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You want to understand why visibility, structure, or consistency feels so hard
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You are done abandoning your mission in moments that matter
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You want 2026 to feel like an expression of your sovereignty, not your wounds
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You crave clarity, inner authority, and emotional spaciousness
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You can sense your leadership evolution knocking on your door
If you know your business is a mirror for your inner work,
this retreat is for you.
WHAT IS INCLUDED IN THE RETREAT EXPERIENCE...
🜁 BLOCK 1 — Mapping Your Relational Shadows
Identify the mother, father, attachment, and leadership shadows shaping your business, your mission, and your identity as a leader.
You will:
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Map your relational blueprint
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Understand how your relational wounds shape business behaviors
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Discover the patterns that block your visibility, pricing, consistency, and voice
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See clearly which parts of you are leading your mission
🜂 BLOCK 2 — Healing the Mother & Father Shadows
A somatic and emotional descent into the mother shadow and father shadow, followed by a powerful reparenting activation for your leadership.
You will:
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Heal the relational wounds hijacking your leadership
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Rebuild inner mother and inner father imprints
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Create emotional safety, structure, and inner authority
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Release the relational burdens shaping your business
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Open the nervous system to expansion and leadership
🜃 BLOCK 3 — The emergence of the sovereign leader
Rebuild your leadership architecture from sovereignty and create the energetic blueprint for your mission in 2026.
You will:
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Embody the integrated leader within
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Reclaim your voice, clarity, and boundaries
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Create a sovereign leadership blueprint for your work
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Clear relational contracts that keep your mission small
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Step into the version of you who can hold visibility, impact, and expansion
By the end of this retreat, you will have:
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A complete map of your relational shadows
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A healed and integrated inner mother & father
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A leadership nervous system capable of holding expansion
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Clarity on why your mission has felt stuck
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New emotional boundaries and relational energetics
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A sovereign identity ready to lead your 2026 mission
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A sense of devotion and clarity you can actually trust
DETAILS & LOGISTICS
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Lifetime access available to all participants
Investment: $147
Includes: Full-day relational alchemy retreat, Somatic processes, Relational blueprint exercises & journaling, Sovereign leadership activation, Worksheets + lifetime replay access
Hi, I’m Xavier Dagba.
I am a trauma-informed transformational guide, a shadow integration specialist, and the author of Scars of Gold.
I support lightworkers, creatives, and soul-led entrepreneurs dissolve the hidden forces that keep them dim, contracted, or trapped in cycles of self-abandonment, so they can become the leaders their mission deserves.
My approach bridges Jungian psychology, somatics, energy work, and heart-centered spiritual wisdom. Everything I teach is grounded in the belief that when we integrate our shadow, we reclaim the fullness of our light.
The intent I bring to this retreat is to help you uproot the relational shadows (especially the mother and father wounds) that quietly hijack your mission, distort your leadership, and fragment your capacity. My role is to guide you into deeper emotional clarity, inner safety, and sovereignty, so that your mission can finally expand from truth rather than survival.
Xavier is the ultimate partner for those who are ready to see themselves clearly
Xavier is the ultimate partner for those who are ready to see themselves clearly, people who have the stamina and strength to see their shadows with a fierce love and to allow their lives to shift in whatever way would most honor that. This work isn’t for the faint of heart, and you can count on having someone in your corner who will hold high integrity on the path.
Melanie PAEZ
Executive coach
A gift to the healing world.
Xavier is a true gift to the healing world. His authenticity and honesty open up room for yours to not only be seen, but to be celebrated. He creates a container of compassion and safety that allows you to dive into the difficult patterns and blocks that feel impossible to explore on your own. He's a trustworthy guide who holds the torch as you step into the darkness, ultimately shining the path for you to find your own light. This process feels like a retrieval; a reclamation of the aspects of yourself that may be in hiding or happened to get lost along the way.
REBECCA GREENE
INTEGRATIVE PSYCHOTHERAPIST
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I integrated some of my deepest held traumas
When I first started working with Xavier, I was carrying a lot of limiting patterns and programs that I didn’t realize were subtly sabotaging my life. Xavier helped guide me to the source of these patterns to transmute them. With his help, I integrated some of my deepest held traumas in ways that have transformed my life and allowed me to show up with more love, presence, and empowerment in my life. Thank you Xavier for guiding me through this transformation..
BEN TIMBY
Xavier is a pivotal force.
Xavier has been the most profound human I’ve worked with on my journey. His ability to truly uphold a safe container has invited parts of myself I was scared to bring to the surface and I emerged out of a depression of 8 years. Xavier is a pivotal force that I will forever be grateful for.
ADAM PARTRIDGE
ARTIST & MUSIC PRODUCER
Working with Xavier was exactly what I needed.
Working with Xavier has been by far my most healing coaching experience. In my opinion he has one of the highest, purest capacity, to channel wisdom, and honestly it is unprecedented how tangible his work is. I'm so proud of who I've become after working with him. His work is not superficial and will crack you open. He was exactly what I needed to get my act together and show up in the role I'm here to play, and for that I'm profoundly grateful.
