YOUR PERSONAL INVITATION TO EVOLVE BEYOND SELF ABANDONMENT.
We are living during times of sacred friction. Where the rise in polarization can make authenticity feel even more risky.
These times press on the places where we've learned to shrink, silence ourselves, and betray our own knowing.
They are exposing all the ways we once chose safety over truth, silence over authenticity, belonging over self-respect, dimming our light over unleashing it.
I am one to think that this is not random. This is by divine design.
I also think that people respond to that in different ways.
Either they will abandon themselves even more to feel a pseudo sense of safety...
OR it will ignite a fire inside of them. A fire that invites them to claim self liberation more than ever before.
Since you are here, I believe you belong to the second category. And this workshop is designed to help you amplify that inner fire of self liberation.
I'M READY TO GET STARTED
WHAT PARTICIPANTS HAVE SAID ABOUT THE WORKSHOP
I’m a father of three, a trauma-informed transformational guide, a shadow integration specialist, and the author of Scars of Gold.
I didn't come to this work because I always honored myself. I came to it because I learned what it costs when you don’t and when you live a life where your soul feels like the outcast. I wouldn't wish that onto anyone.
The work I teach is not theory. It is the path that rebuilt me. The path that taught me how to stay when my nervous system wanted to flee, and how to express my light and gifts even when they might shake the status quo.
This workshop is born from that fire and from the profound knowing that self-abandonment is not weakness, but a survival strategy that has simply outlived its purpose. It is designed to help you outgrow it.
If you’re here, I will assume it's because deep down you know that the season of abandoning yourself (and especially your light) is over...
And a new era of self-devotion, truth, and sovereignty is beginning.
If that’s you, then welcome!
IT'S TIME TO TAKE YOUR VOICE, YOUR LIGHT AND YOUR GIFTS OUT OF THE SHADOW
There is a particular kind of self-abandonment that cuts the deepest.
Not the moments when we neglect our needs or avoid difficult feelings…
but the moments when we turn away from our own light.
In a way, this signals to your psyche that one of the most sacred aspects of who you are, is inadequate.
This is what we will disrupt with this workshop.
One of my favorite mantras of the moment is that:
the earth has been more than ready for your light.
With this workshop, we practice what it looks like to unleash it.
WHAT WE WILL COVER IN PART 1
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Reclaiming the parts of you you once hid, such as your light, your voice, and your gifts
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Re-establishing inner safety so your nervous system can support truth instead of survival
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Calling your power back from your survival archetypes
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Transforming fear of visibility, judgment, and disappointment into clarity and sovereignty
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Embodying the Divine Rebel: the part of you that refuses to abandon yourself again
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A guided signature shadow integration journey to return to your fuller self
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Practical tools to keep choosing yourself long after the workshop ends
WHAT WE COVER IN PART 2 - THE RISE OF THE DIVINE REBEL
Holding Your Truth & Light Without Collapsing
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Strengthening the spiritual and emotional stamina needed to stay rooted in your truth when expansion feels threatening
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Dissolving the survival reflexes that activate when you begin to rise: collapse, shrinking, self-censorship, and visibility withdrawal
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Repatterning your nervous system to hold more visibility, more expression, and more power without interpreting it as danger
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Breaking shadow vows that keep you small, such as “If I shine, I will lose people” or “If I speak my truth, I’ll be rejected”
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A guided somatic and shamanic-style journey to embody your light without collapse, contraction, or self-abandonment
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Practical methods to stay in your body and your voice during moments of visibility, confrontation, or emotional charge
IT'S TIME TO BUILD A LIFE WHERE YOUR SOUL NO LONGER FEELS LIKE THE OUTCAST
This is for you if...
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You’ve done deep inner work… and yet you still feel like you’re circling the edges of your full expression.
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You’re tired of hiding your brightness to stay safe, liked, or palatable.
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You’ve outgrown the version of leadership that requires you to shrink, perform, or prove.
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You long to live and lead from wholeness, and not from fragments or personas.
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You know there’s more gold inside you, and you’re ready to stop protecting it and start embodying it.
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You want to feel at home in your truth, unapologetic in your voice, no matter how challenging.
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You’re ready to create, speak, serve, and lead from the deepest part of you, not just the most curated part.
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THE ALCHEMY OF SELF ABANDONMENT
WORKSHOP w/ XAVIER DAGBA
One of the best investments I've made by far
Working with Xavier has completely shifted the way I relate to myself, my loved ones, and my work. Xavier is a master coach who very often was able to read between the lines of my best attempts at self expression and to find a nugget of wisdom inside of it, giving me the tools and encouragement to integrate aspects of myself I didn't even know where there. One of the best investments I've ever made, by far.
Peter Fam
Human Rights Lawyer
Xavier's intuitive attunement is unique.
I left my work with Xavier feeling balanced, confident in my ability to process all the hard issues we can face in life. I feel more free than I have ever felt before. The biggest achievement was working through years of unvoiced grief. Xavier is exceptional at what he does! He is so intuitive and I always felt like he knew exactly in which direction to take our sessions. His ability to support and guide you through your journey is second to none.
Gemma Russell
Hypnotherapist
Life has opened up in front of me.
Working with Xavier changed my life. My psychic gifts came online, I developed a deeper relationship with myself and my body. I am more at peace than I have ever been. In this container, I felt safe enough to dive into the places that terrified me and I came out of this experience a completely different person. I am bold and embodied, my energy is different. I am excited because life has opened up in front of me.
EZINNE OSUAGWU
Nothing short of life changing.
Working with Xavier has been nothing short of life-changing. I've gained a profound sense of self-confidence and self-love, and I've come to trust my gifts, especially my spiritual and healing gifts. Through our work, I've reached deeper levels of acceptance and developed the capacity to alchemize challenges with greater speed and grace. I've learned to trust masculine energy after experiencing lifelong wounding from men, I experience less anxiety, and embrace more softness and sensuality in my life because I feel safer in my body. My discernment has sharpened, and I no longer waste energy on areas that don't serve me. During a period of significant transitions in my life, his consistent presence was a balm to my soul.
