Ep. 22 | Scott Kiloby: When Spirituality Becomes Suppression and how to emerge from it.
What if some of the ways spirituality is practiced today are actually reinforcing the very suffering they claim to heal?
In this powerful and confronting conversation, Xavier Dagba sits down with Scott Kiloby, founder of the Kiloby Inquiry and a pioneer in trauma-informed nondual work, to explore a hidden pattern affecting countless seekers, teachers, and healers:
Spirituality used as a way to avoid feeling.
Together, they unpack what happens when spiritual concepts are used to bypass pain, suppress emotions, or dissociate from the body, and how this “spiritual illness” quietly keeps people stuck, fragmented, and disconnected from real integration.
This episode is for you if:
- You’ve done years of inner work but still feel blocked, numb, or disconnected
- You sense that “letting go,” “transcending the ego,” or “staying high-vibe” has cost you access to your humanity
- You’re ready for a grounded, embodied, trauma-aware approach to awakening
- You want spirituality that includes the nervous system, the body, and emotional truth
This is not a rejection of spirituality. It’s an invitation to make it honest, embodied, and liberating.
ABOUT SCOTT KILOBY
Scott Kiloby is the founder of Kiloby Inquiry, a trauma-informed approach to nonduality that directly addresses emotional repression, compulsions, and nervous system dysregulation.
Website: https://kiloby.com
Instagram: https://instagram.com/scottkiloby
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⏱️ CHAPTERS
00:00 — Introduction: the hidden cost of spiritual avoidance
02:30 — Scott Kiloby’s background and path into inquiry
06:10 — When spirituality becomes another addiction
10:45 — Spiritual bypassing vs. true liberation
15:05 — Trauma, dissociation, and the nervous system
20:20 — Why “letting go” often doesn’t work
26:30 — Avoiding feelings in the name of awakening
32:10 — The problem with transcendence without embodiment
38:25 — How suppression masquerades as peace
45:40 — Spiritual suppression and emotional numbness
52:15 — Nonduality, inquiry, and meeting what’s here
58:00 — What real integration actually requires
1:05:10 — Bringing awareness into the body
1:12:40 — A more honest path to freedom
1:21:00 — Closing reflections and invitations
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