Ep. 20 | Xavier Dagba: How to outgrow self-abandonment during polarized times
Join the workshop - The Alchemy of Self-Abandonment
Transcend the protective patterns that keep your voice, truth, and brilliance in the shadows.
Live on Wednesday Nov 5th — Replay included
https://www.xavierdagba.com/returntosoul
About this episode.
These times are putting us through a sacred friction. We are living in a collective pressure-cooker. An era where authenticity can feel risky and self-abandonment can feel like safety.
In this episode, we explore how the world is inviting you to either collapse into old patterns of shrinking, silence, and self-betrayal…
Or ignite a profound return to your Self. To your truth. To your light. To the part of you that refuses to betray your soul again.
We’ll talk about the subtle ways self-abandonment still sneaks in—especially for conscious people—and why this moment in history is calling something powerful forward in you.
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A guide for shadow integration, self-liberation, and reclaiming your light.
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⏱️ Chapters
0:00 Welcome & Introduction
0:24 Why I've been offline — choosing presence
2:42 The vulnerability of publishing a book
4:30 Getting married & pausing promotion
6:20 Presence over performance
8:02 When your mission becomes self-abandonment
9:20 Divine timing: Book launch & family reunion
13:30 Full-circle moment with my parents
15:10 Collective turmoil & self-abandonment
16:30 Hyper-polarization & identity pressure
18:50 Information overload & losing discernment
20:35 Fear-based narratives & shrinking
22:15 Performative empathy & silencing truth
24:36 Outsourcing authority & losing inner power
26:30 Soul abandonment — the most painful kind
28:18 Cynicism as a trauma response
31:10 Reclaiming your power in friction
33:02 New definition of safety: Light is safe
34:45 The Archetypal Fears (Humiliation / Alienation / Loss / Persecution / Death)
37:38 Quiet rebellion — living your truth without performing
39:30 The collective is training us for sovereignty
41:50 A world asking you to armor up — and choosing to stay open-hearted
45:00 Your soul is not meant to remain in the shadows
47:10 Workshop Invitation & Closing
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