Ep. 23 | Jeremie Lotemo: Healing the masculine wound - Choosing love over control
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Healing the Masculine Wound: Choosing Love Over Control
In this episode of Enheartened, Xavier Dagba is joined by Jeremie Lotemo for a grounded conversation on masculine healing, emotional maturity, and heart-led leadership.
Together, they explore how control, emotional shutdown, and performance often function as survival strategies within masculinityβand how mature leadership requires presence, accountability, and the capacity to remain open rather than armored.
This conversation addresses emotional repression, relational responsibility, integrity, and the inner work required for men to move beyond dominance or passivity and lead from love without collapsing their strength.
EXPLORE XAVIERβS WORK
Book β Scars of Gold
https://www.scarsofgold.com
Newsletter β Embodied Light
https://newsletter.xavierdagba.com
π§ Listen to the Enheartened Podcast
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ABOUT JEREMIE LOTEMO
Instagram: https://instagram.com/jeremielotemo
Jeremieβs work:
β’ The Woman He Wants (private group)
https://www.skool.com/the-woman-he-wants/about
- Life Lessons from 50 Dates That Went Nowhere
https://connect.byermeas.com/life-lessons-ebook - Dear Men Podcast
https://open.spotify.com/show/2v1sdERAJjZg25dewXZrki
β±οΈ CHAPTERS
00:00 β Men drifting away from themselves and relationships
02:15 β Avoidance, discomfort, and emotional numbing
05:10 β Growth through exposure and relational risk
08:40 β Jeremie's path into relational and inner work
12:00 β Emotional repression and masculine survival strategies
16:30 β Mental health tools and relational healing
21:10 β Truth-telling, fear, and emotional wounding
27:45 β Safety, expression, and being seen in relationship
33:40 β Masculinity, vulnerability, and emotional responsibility
39:30 β Leading without certainty or control
45:10 β Frustration, guidance, and inner orientation
50:45 β Devotion, integrity, and staying present
56:30 β Partnership, appreciation, and emotional intimacy
1:02:40 β Accountability without self-betrayal
1:09:20 β Control versus grounded leadership
1:15:40 β Witnessing oneself through relationship
1:21:50 β Longing, purpose, and masculine direction
1:28:30 β Inner authority and emotional maturity
1:34:50 β Letting go of performance and expectation
1:41:00 β Integration and closing reflections
#Masculinity #MasculineHealing #EmotionalMaturity #ConsciousMen #RelationalIntegrity #EmbodiedLeadership #ShadowIntegration #LoveOverControl #EnheartenedPodcast
